My commandments

  1. Feelings are the unconditional source of truth. Trust them and use them for building authentic opinions.
  2. Speak with the intention to inspire, not to brag.
  3. Listen with the intention to understand, not to reply.
  4. Write with the intention of usefulness, not to look smart. If you’ve learned nothing during your writing, don’t publish.
  5. Do not expect others to act according to your values. Instead, convince them that they are worth valuing.
  6. Do not expect others to fill your gaps. Especially, your partner is not to fix your flaws.
  7. Embrace the people around you. There is no such thing as self-made success as you can not pull yourself up by your bootstraps.
  8. Consider all people as smart as you just in different areas.
  9. Everyone has beauty inside, it’s your job to find it, not theirs to show you. You can not appreciate what you do not understand; hence, if you can understand everyone, you can appreciate everyone.
  10. It requires courage to be normal. The desire to be unique is a desire for recognition. The desire for recognition comes from comparing with others.
  11. Love exists. If you don’t believe, keep looking.