Loneliness is a measure of self-understanding
Definition 1: Loneliness is having other people around you, and having a deep sense of being misunderstood by them. To feel lonely, we need other people.
Definition 2: You don’t really understand something if you can not explain it using simple words.
By combining these two definitions we get interesting causality:
Let’s start with replacing something with yourself. We get: you don’t really understand yourself if you can not explain yourself using simple words.
Now let’s imply the first definition by the second one:
- From Definition 1, loneliness is caused by a lack of understanding by other people, and
- the lack of understanding by other people is caused by the lack of skills to explain yourself to others,
- from Definition 2, the lack of skills to explain yourself is caused by the lack of understanding yourself.
The deduction says loneliness is caused by the lack of understanding yourself, or even loneliness is a measure of self-understanding.
If you think you understand yourself well, but you feel a deep sense of being misunderstood. You need to explain yourself to other people, you have to help them to understand you. You need to learn to communicate who you are in a way they understand, not you.
Ultimately, you are the recipient of feeling understood or misunderstood, not others. So it’s your task to make others understand you.
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